The Meeting System
Meetings enable our school to function: for decision making, and also conflict resolution
Small meetings help develop self awareness, and also awareness of other people, and our impact on each other.
Trips, and special events, are announced at Whole School Meetings and help everyone to know what is happening in the school.
When a child or adult finds some behaviour annoying or against school rules, they may request that the person stops that behaviour. For example, by saying ‘I request that you stop calling me that name’. If the behaviour does not stop or alter after a second request, the initiator is encouraged to call a meeting on the behaviour of the person.
Small Group Meetings
These are used to work through any disputes that arise. The usual first step in calling a small group meeting is for the initiator to find a child that is willing to be a chairperson. The chairperson then gets everybody involved together (including a teacher to be present) and chairs the meeting.
On occasion, staff may use different strategies in response to individual needs. For example, staff may have concerns that the wellbeing of a child chairperson may be impacted negatively, or that a breach of privacy may occur. Staff may chair a meeting themselves. One of our key values is to nurture the emotional wellbeing of the children, and children are not assumed to be ready for every situation that could arise.
If your child is involved in a meeting please don’t speak for your child unless requested to do so by the chairperson. You may be absolutely bursting to tell your child’s side of the conflict but please restrain yourself. We want them to speak up for themselves. The experienced staff and chairpersons are generally very good at getting at what has really happened; you can always have a word with staff afterwards.
There is no punishment as an outcome, rather consequences, and children have another try if a matter is not properly resolved (and often when it is). We are willing to wait for your child to develop their own voice and do what we can to help.
Whole School Meetings
A child, parent or staff meeting may call a Whole School Meeting at any time. These are often called to let everybody know about school activities coming up (e.g. ski trip) or to discuss a school-wide concern or issue. Current school rules may require children to call a Whole School Meeting if they want to book a particular space. Most usually there is at least one Whole School Meeting each week.
One of the children is approached to be a chairperson or offers to be one, and then walks around the school letting everybody know that a whole school meeting has been called. Children under six are not required to attend.
A very simple format is used in both small group and whole school meetings…
- The chairperson checks everyone is there that needs to be.
- The chairperson opens the meeting by asking ‘Meeting come to order, who called this meeting?’ The initiator responds.
- Discussion is held, with people raising their hand and waiting for the chairperson to select them before they speak. Motions may be put forward for voting on.
- When the discussion seems to have finished, the chairperson will ask ‘Any more matters on this matter?’.
- Once the matter has been dealt with, the chairperson will ask ‘Any more matters?’.
- When all matters have been dealt with, the chairperson will declare the meeting closed.
Refusing to come to meetings
If a child is outright refusing to be ‘part of the school’ and come to meetings, the staff may discuss this with their caregiver, and possibly come to an informal arrangement with their caregiver/parents where the parent chooses to take the child home until the child prepared to participate and come to a meeting to address their behaviour.
It is important that parents' understand, and respect, the meeting system process and realise that it under-pins how our school functions.
If a child is repeatedly, and over a long term, refusing to come to meetings it is possible that Tamariki School is not the right environment for their child. Sometimes parents need to support their child to overcome their anxieties, and help them to attend meetings. Over time we hope that the child will realise that meetings help them sort out issues and will see the benefit in them. Sometimes a more ‘formal’ stand-down process may be used especially if the child is repeatedly refusing to use the school's management systems i.e. come to meetings and participate in solving behaviour issues. This may lead to suspension if a child totally refuses to participate in the school’s system and take responsibility for the behaviour. Flexibility is given when the child is very young or new to the school.